Quick clarification, if you have a very imaginative spouse, and the side sx isn’t as good that might not be the case for you but let’s face it. Repeat sxual intercourse with the same person can become boring.
Let’s be real. No need to be pretentious, and be Nigerian in this, which is being judgmental about it all. How it is against the law of God to even have s*x at all. Even though statistics have revealed that over 70% of Nigerians participate in pre-marital s*x. Let’s just save it and have a conversation about this.
Like anything you do constantly, it tends to get boring. Having s*x with the same person is one of the standard requirement of being in a relationship with someone, when it goes on for a while, the s*x becomes rather normal, drag or even not good any more, this can then in turn lead to seeking for s*xual innovation. Finding ways of getting better s*x, making it more interesting, reports Zeynep Yenisey, Maxim.
If new ways are not found to make the s*x better, the experience continues to depreciate, the chemicals in the body don’t react like they used to. The brain floods the body with less amount of dopamine, which in turn make it less and less for one to be interested in s*x. It will take away the desire.
When this happens, the body naturally seeks other adventures, wants to conquer new territories, the psychology of the human mind. Here is a kicker, when you lose interest in s*x, it can come back by hooking up with other people. A new conquest can bring back the desire for s*x. There is a name for this, it’s called the Coolidge Effect, named after a former U.S President Calvin Coolidge. It was observed while the President and his wife visited the government farm, and noticed how chickens were hop on each other around.
Here is what happened, while they were looking around the farm, Mrs Coolidge found a rooster who was apparently hoeing around with different chickens. She asked the attendant how often it happened, and the reply was that it happens a lot of times in a day, say dozens of times, which is a lot.
She then prompted the attendant to give this information to the President when he comes around. When he heard, he queried if it was the same hen every time which he answered, different hen, different times, then the President asked the attendant to give his wife that same information.
I feel the attendant was being pushed around a lot of the time, and was being dragged into a personal squabble the couple were having. That’s how the Coolidge Effect works. To further buttress this point, a study found out that men that were exposed to the same kind of P0*n for a period of time lose the stimuli, and got less and less aroused as time went by. On the flip side, the guys who were introduced to different P0*n record even higher level of arousal.
From another study, it was discovered that after watching the same P0*no for a few days and switching it with a different one produced different results, men came faster and had improved sperm count.
“This suggest that the Coolidge Effect may have an evolutionary explanation behind it in that it might potentially increase men’s odds of reproductive success with new partners,” explains sexpert Dr. Justin Lehmiller.
You might think it doesn’t apply to human relationship, but being in a relationship for a long time can make for some bored s*x, and for full effect. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with your spouse, we’re all just naturally sluts/hoes. This isn’t meant in a disrespect manner.
For people who don’t want to step out on their spouses, you can keep up the fire by introducing s*x toys into the mix, and for some people who have agreement with their spouse, to have open s*xual relationship. A little something called consensual non-monogamy. The world is full of weird people, just make it work.