It’s common especially with those who have fallen into a pattern of embracing and enjoying the lack of a partner.
If you are single and searching, there are literally a gazillion articles you could read on how to get the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend.
Most of these articles advice you to go out, meet people; they advise on your grooming and dressing and all that.
But sadly, people sometimes remain single because somewhere along the line of being single to stupor, they shut down their emotions and became inaccessible.
This is common especially for those who have fallen into a pattern of embracing and enjoying their ‘boolessness’.
They become so used to it, so comfortable on their own that it becomes quite uncomfortable to begin a relationship and let someone in who will ‘disrupt’ that balance they have found in enjoying life by themselves.
This is how you’ll know you belong in this category:
1. Dates feel like interrogations
As your date partner tries to familiarise himself with you and tries to know you better, you feel like he’s violating your privacy by prying.
2. s*x is always just an act
You don’t even want to flirt with anyone, and when someone tries, you roll your eyes and scoff at their attempts.
3. Flirting annoys you
You are only about the physical gratification than the emotional connection s*x brings.
You just want to rip your shirt off and get down to it. Nothing about emotions, you just want to c*m and move on with your life.
4. You hate making eye contact
For you, making eye contact with the opposite s*x is too much mushy stuff than you can bear so you avoid it at all costs. Of course it does not make sense.
5. Emotional situations freak you out
Whether it’s a case of PDA or mushy conversation, it bothers you.
When your friend, brother or sister speaks about the partner he/she has just found or how great it is to be in a relationship with such person, you can’t relate and frankly, you don’t care.
You’ll just wish the person would shut up and let you rest.