But what if, after many years of impressing your boss, parents, friends, lovers, etc., you don’t know what makes you happy — truly, deeply happy? Well. Here are seven healthy habits to rediscover your personal joy so that the future holds no regrets:
1. Focus on the positive.
Push away all negative thoughts, any self-doubts, worries or anyone else’s voice in your head. Stay in a confident mindset with only positive thoughts. When this is difficult to do on your own, read books that reinforce the message you want to live, listen to music and watch shows that do the same.
Pay attention to what gives you a lift of energy, a surge of enthusiasm — even if just slightly. Consider when was the last time you did something where you had so much fun you forgot what time it was. (The best type of fun.)
We often forget to play in our routines. Whether it’s a softball game, frisbee, dancing, coloring, painting, board games, or something else — just include play in your routine. Pets and kids are great excuses to get on the ground or floor and roll around or go to a playground.
4. Spend time alone.
Allow time for ideas to percolate to the surface and provide them room to settle in.
5. Try different things.
Just like spending time alone allows an opportunity for ideas, so does getting out and trying new things. If you’ve never tried scuba diving and always thought it looked fun, why not go to a dive center and find out more about upcoming classes? Explore the ideas that have come up in your alone time and experiment to see which you really like.
6. Spend time with people who you feel good around.
Stop thinking about people who you want to change for, and spend time with people you feel good around now — people you like and who like you. Listen closely to what they say. Maybe one of the reasons you like them is because of some of their interests. You don’t have to change to share interests. Refer to #5!
7. Maintain healthy habits.
It’s hard to feel good about yourself and set any exciting goals when you’re overtired or hungry. Take care of the basics — eat healthy food, sleep conscientiously, take care of your household environment. We depend on the basics to move us forward to greater platforms!
By the time you get through at least a few off the list above, you begin to get an idea for what makes you happy. At the very least, you’ll be concentrating more on what makes you tick and less on how to make someone think better of you! The more you impress yourself, the better you will feel.