If there’s one thing that almost every guy is an expert at, its self service. After years of extensive, hands-on experience, you think you know everything there is to know. But according to the experts, maybe you don’t. Here are some that may surprise you.
1. self service doesn’t have the health benefits that sx does.
It appears that not all orgasms are created equally, says Tobias S. Khler, MD, MPH, an associate professor at Southern Illinois University School of Medicine in Springfield.
Study after study shows that intercourse has all sorts of benefits for men for yourblood pressure, heart andprostatehealth, pain, and more. Youd think that self service would, too. But it doesn’t.
Why would it make a difference whether you release during sx or on your own? No ones sure. But your body seems to respond differently. Even the makeup of semen is different if you self service instead of having sx.
Still, does it really matter? Have you honestly been self servicing all these years only because you wanted to boost your prostate health? Didn’t think so.
2. self service is not risk-free.
Sure, its low-risk. Its the safest form of sx possible. No one ever caught an STD from himself or made himself pregnant. But like other low-risk activities (chewing, walking), it still has some risks.
Frequent or rough self service can cause minor skin irritation. Forcefully bending an erect man-hood can rupture the chambers that fill with blood, a rare but gruesome condition called penile fracture.
Khler has seen guys with it after vigorous self service. Afterward, the man-hood looks like an eggplant, he says. Its purple and swollen. Most men need surgery to repair it.
3. There is no normal amount of self service.
Guys can get hung up on whether they self service too much. But its not how many times you self service in a week (or day) that really matters, says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist and sx educator. Its how it fits into your life.
If you self service many times a day and have a healthy, satisfying life, good for you. But if you self service many times a day and youre missing work or giving up on sx with your partner because of it, consider seeing a sx therapist.
Even then, there is nothing specific about self service that’s the problem. Compulsive self service is like any behavior that disrupts your life whether its compulsively playing poker or buying Beanie Babies on eBay.
4. self servicing doesn’t reflect on your relationship.
Levkoff says the most damaging myth about male self service is that its a sign something is wrong in your relationship.
The fact is that most guys self service. They self service if theyre single, in a bad relationship, or in a great relationship. Its just something they do that has nothing to do with their partners.
self service isn’t only about sx, Levkoff says. For many, its a routine way of relieving stress, clearing your head before work, or going to sleep.
5. self service is almost certainly good for your sx life.
self service can help your sx life, since its how guys learn what they like during sx. I think women would be more satisfied sexually in their relationships if they masturbated as much as men do, Levkoff says.
Are there exceptions? Some guys do get so hooked on a certain amount of pressure during self service or the stimulation of P0n that they cant perform with a partner, says Ian Kerner, PhD, a s*x therapist and author of She Comes First.
Still, Kerner says those guys are the exception. For the vast majority of men, self service is a healthy thing, he says. Im usually more concerned about a guy who stopped self servicing which can be a sign of anxiety or health problems than a guy who is doing it regularly.